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8 Women Christian Men Should Never Marry by J. Lee Grady

2/21/2016

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In this article, originally published in Charisma Magazine in February of 2014,  J. Lee Grady helps men with marriage advice designed to concisely help them avoid the pitfalls that can keep their Godly destiny locked away. We pray that his advice helps you connect with a Godly partner and together discover, unlock and live your Godly destinies.

Grady pens, "I received numerous requests to share guidelines for men who are looking for wives. Since I am mentoring several young men right now and have seen a few of them marry successfully during the past few years, it wasn’t difficult to draft this list. These are the women I tell my spiritual sons to avoid:

1. The unbeliever. In last week’s column, I reminded women that the Bible is absolutely clear on this point: Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is the single most important decision you will ever make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list of qualities you want in a wife.

2. The material girl. One young friend of mine was engaged to a girl from a rich family. He saved up money for months to buy a ring, but when he proposed she told him he needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart budget. I warned my friend that he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. The diva. Some macho guys like to throw their weight around and pretend they are superior to women. Divas are the female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice about hurting somebody else to prove their point. Their words are harsh and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. Some of these women might end up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in the woman you are dating, back away from her and keep looking.
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4. The Delilah. Remember Samson? He was anointed by God with superhuman strength, but he lost his power when a seductive woman figured out his secret and gave her man the world’s most famous haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn’t yielded her sexuality to God will blind you with her charms, break your heart and snip your anointing off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys, posts sexually inappropriate comments on Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before marriage, get out of that relationship before she traps you.


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10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry by J. Lee Grady

2/21/2016

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In this article, originally published in Charisma Magazine in February of 2014,  J. Lee Grady helps women with marriage advice designed to concisely help them avoid the pitfalls that can keep their Godly destiny locked away. We pray that his advice helps you connect with a Godly partner and together discover, unlock and live your Godly destinies.

Grady pens, "My wife and I raised four daughters—without shotguns in the house!—and three of them have already married. We love our sons-in-law, and it’s obvious God handpicked each of them to match our daughters’ temperaments and personality.I have always believed God is in the matchmaking business. If He can do it for my daughters, He can do it for you.

Today I have several single female friends who would very much like to find the right guy. Some tell me the pickings are slim at their church, so they have ventured into the world of online dating. Others have thrown up their hands in despair, wondering if there are any decent Christian guys left anywhere. They’ve begun to wonder if they should lower their standards in order to find a mate.

My advice stands: Don't settle for less than God's best. Too many Christian women today have ended up with an Ishmael because impatience pushed them into an unhappy marriage. Please take my fatherly advice: You are much better off single than with the wrong guy!

Speaking of “wrong guys,” here are the top 10 men you should avoid when looking for a husband:

1. The unbeliever. Please write 2 Corinthians 6:14 on a Post-it note and tack it on your computer at work. It says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). This is not an outdated religious rule. It is the Word of God for you today.

Don’t allow a man’s charm, looks or financial success (or his willingness to go to church with you) push you to compromise what you know is right. “Missionary dating” is never a wise strategy. If the guy is not a born-again Christian, scratch him off your list. He’s not right for you. I’ve yet to meet a Christian woman who didn’t regret marrying an unbeliever.

2. The liar. If you discover that the man you are dating has lied to you about his past or that he’s always covering his tracks to hide his secrets from you, run for the nearest exit. Marriage must be built on a foundation of trust. If he can’t be truthful, break up now before he bamboozles you with an even bigger deception.

3. The playboy. I wish I could say that if you meet a nice guy at church, you can assume he’s living in sexual purity. But that’s not the case today. I’ve heard horror stories about single guys who serve on the worship team on Sunday but act like Casanovas during the week. If you marry a guy who was sleeping around before your wedding, you can be sure he will be sleeping around after your wedding.

4. The deadbeat. There are many solid Christian men who experienced marital failure years ago. Since their divorce, they have experienced the Holy Spirit’s restoration, and now they want to remarry. Second marriages can be very happy. But if you find out that the man you are dating hasn’t been caring for his children from a previous marriage, you have just exposed a fatal flaw. Any man who will not pay for his past mistakes or support children from a previous marriage is not going to treat you responsibly.
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5. The addict. Churchgoing men who have addictions to alcohol or drugs have learned to hide their problems—but you don’t want to wait until your honeymoon to find out that he’s a boozer. Never marry a man who refuses to get help for his addiction. Insist that he get professional help and walk away. And don’t get into a codependent relationship in which he claims he needs you to stay sober. You can’t fix him.


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What Marriage Does by John Witte, Jr.

2/10/2016

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Have you wondered how, or whether, marriage fits with discovering, unlocking and living your Godly destiny?  Do you see your marriage, or your desire to be married, as a support or hindrance to your Godly destiny?  This video will help you understand marriage from a historical perspective as well as from a spiritual perspective.

Calvin College shares, "Marriage is more than a piece of paper, yet it's more difficult to buy a new car than to wed someone for life. John Witte, Jr., director of the Center for the Study of Law and Religion at Emory University, traces the view of marriage throughout western history, suggesting ways to strengthen and enrich the institution today."

We pray that you develop a healthy view of marriage relations such that you living in the fullness of your Godly destiny.
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Setting Boundaries - Personal and Professional by Henry Cloud

2/10/2016

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In this video, Henry Cloud discusses the need for healthy boundaries in managing your time and energy. This process includes pruning those things from your life that are not part of your goals and purpose. Once focused, it is important to make choices (i.e. have boundaries) that are aligned with God's purposes for your life.

Enjoy this video as clinical psychologist and leadership consultant Henry Cloud, author of "The One-Life Solution: Reclaim Your Personal Life While Achieving Greater Professional Success," examines the boundaries we cross at our own expense.

We pray that you develop healthy boundaries such that you discover, unlock, and live your Godly destiny.
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Encounter with Jesus While Critically Injured by Ali Perez

2/3/2016

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CBN shares, "Officer Ali Perez was nearly killed while serving a warrant on a suspected pedophile. During a shoot out, Jesus appears to Ali and asks him to bless the man who was determined to take his life."

We pray that Ali's testimony of his encounter with Jesus encourages you have greater faith as you seek to discover, unlock and live your Godly destiny.
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Jesus Appeared in My Room Physically

2/3/2016

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Tetrarch World TV shares, "In 2018 Jesus appeared in my room physical and held my shoulders.  In this encounter with Jesus, I saw Jesus pierced hand, what he spoke to me changed my life.  This encounter of Jesus shows how important the calling and purposes he has created us for are.  If Jesus have called you into any form of ministry I urge you to prepare yourself and start and do not procrastinate.  Your calling is very crucial as Jesus is coming very soon!!! I trust this experience will impact your life if you are a new Christian, or you are an old veteran in Christ."

We pray you have your own encounters with Jesus as you discover, unlock and live your Godly destiny.
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A Christmas Eve Miracle Restores A Crippled Life by CBN

12/25/2015

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CBN shares, "Ema McKinley was injured in work accident and for almost 20 years she lived in constant pain until a Christmas Eve miracle changed her life forever."

Our humble suggestion: pursue the destiny of Jesus through your life and have unlimited hope while doing so.  Please kindly consider your life as you listen to Ema's story and use it to keep hold of an eternal perspective as you discover, unlock and live your Godly destiny.

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Critical Laws of Relationship by Robb Thompson

11/16/2015

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We all need a friendly reminder from time to time about how we ought manage our relationships.  In this video, Robb Thompson offers a few quick relationship tips to help us live a more balanced relational life.

Do you have a high RQ - relational quotient?  Have you built a life team - those you can believe in and who believe in you?  These sorts of relationships are long term commitments and are the seedbed of greatness.

We pray that your relationships grow deeper and more meaningful as you discover, unlock, and live your Godly destiny.
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The Missouri Miracle by ABC News

11/6/2015

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God is still doing miracles and angels do exist!

According to ABC News, "It's being called the 'Missouri Miracle.' Much of it is still a mystery. A teenager with a beautiful smile, 19-year-old Katie Lentz, trapped in her mangled car, hit by a drunk driver. And, first responders trying to get her out but having no success.

Sheriff's Deputy Richard Adair won't forget when the Fire Chief turned to him in despair because he was out of options - the tools weren't working - by that time, it was almost an hour - then, the miracle happened."


We pray this story encourages you...our God is a miracle performing, loving Heavenly Father! Believe for the miracle of the Godly destiny which resides within you to come forth - Seek to discover, unlock and live your Godly destiny.
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Can You Listen To God with Unbelievers by Jamie Winship

10/19/2015

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Are you open to changing your paradigms about how people come to Christ? Do you want to be inspired today by how personally God cares for every single person on the planet?

Watch this video by Jamie Winship, where he speaks plainly with an unbeliever, with amazing results! After a simple prayer, this man learns about Jesus through a powerful Divine encounter which forever changed his life.


Hearing the voice of the Lord is an important aspect for all who seek to discover, unlock, and live their Godly destiny.  In truth, hearing His voice is critical to having a deep growing relationship with Him.
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